Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT)

Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT)

Jeff Wilfong, MFT offers Gottman Method Couples Therapy, which is based on the work of Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman. Dr. John Gottman is author of over 190 academic articles and author/co-author of 40 books including “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, “The Relationship Cure”, and “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail.” The Method is based extensive research from over 40 years (4,000 real couples) who have lived for a day at the Gottman’s Seattle-based “Love Lab” clinic. He developed the theory so extremely well that he could predict divorce with over 95% accuracy, using only 15 minutes of communication at the lab.

In order to make a relationship last, there are 3 goals in the method:
– Couples must become better friends
– Couples need to learn to manage conflict, and
– Couples need to create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future

Get a Gottman Assessment of your relationship today!

The approach helps to build listening, understanding, affection, closeness, and calm for both partners. You need not be married, nor heterosexual, to benefit from this approach. The only thing that is needed is a willingness and commitment to create a better relationship with your partner.

Seven areas, called the “Sound Relationship House,” will be assessed:

Build Love Maps: Determine how well you know your partner’s inner world, history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes.

Share Fondness and Admiration: Determine the level of contempt and instead focus on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship, through building of appreciation and respect.

Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection, turn towards your partner during every-day interactions.

The Positive Perspective: The presence of a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.

Manage Conflict: Relationship conflict is natural, and so it is important to understand how to handle perpetual problems.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.

Create Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.

There are over 50+ interventions well designed to strengthen a specific level of the Sound Relationship House. Many homework activities can be assigned to enhance gains in therapy.

Contact Jeff Wilfong for a free consultation today to see how therapy can help you. You can either email him () or call him (888-511-4269). You can read about the many services he offers here.

Book and Audio recommendations

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
( book kindle )

By John M. Gottman & Nan Silver

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love ( book kindle mp3 )
By Sue Johnson

Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together ( book kindle)
By Tammy Nelson

The Sexless Marriage Cure: How to Get Your Partner (or You) Interested in Sex Again
( kindle)

By Liam Naden

Getting the Love you Want: A guide for Couples ( book kindle mp3)
By Harvel Hendrix

After The fight: Using your disagreements to build a stronger relationship ( book)
By Daniel Wile

Website resources

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Gottman retreats for couples
Wikipedia – John Gottman

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