Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Jeff Wilfong, LMFT provides therapy for individuals suffering from Borderline personality disorder (BPD). He also provides counseling and support for loved ones or partners who are impacted.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the main treatment for BPD, which is researched-based. Jeff offers DBT skills and other therapeutic strategies such as mindfulness-based and relational-based therapies to complement DBT.

What is Borderline Personality Disorer (BPD)?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pattern of unstable relationships, self-image and emotions. Often, individuals struggling with BPD are impulsive (risky sex, alcohol/drug abuse, impulse shopping, cutting, suicide attempts, etc.) and they are very sensitive to environmental stimulus such as rejection, criticism, loss of structure, ending of relationships, loss of jobs, and more.

During these environmental events, those with BPD can experience intense shifts in their self-image (or identity – changing from love to hate, for example), their emotions (unexplainable intense sadness, inappropriate anger, etc.), their thoughts (a flood of thoughts, black and white thinking, etc.), and behavior.

Often threats of abandonment can cause such individuals to have intense fears, thoughts, and lead to a host of damaging and destructive behaviors.

What are the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorer (BPD)?

A person with this disorder will often exhibit:

  • Efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
  • A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation (love and hate)
  • Unstable self-image or sense of self
  • Impulsivity in at least two areas (ex: spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
  • Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior (cutting)
  • Emotional instability
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness
  • Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger
  • Stress-related paranoid thoughts or dissociative (losing contact with body/ “feeling like floating”) symptoms
Will Jeff diagnose Borderline Personality Disorer (BPD)?

Yes, Jeff has been treating this disorder for over 5 years and is skilled at diagnosing this disorder. He will not be in a “rush” to assign this label, and so typically it takes a number of sessions, sometimes 1-2 months (when a triggering event occurs), to properly diagnose this disorder. Regardless, treatment can help those who have full-blown BPD or just traits, so the diagnosis can be just a formality.


Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance ( book kindle )

Calming the Emotional Storm: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Manage Your Emotions and Balance Your Life ( book kindle audible)

Dialectical Behavior Therapy Diary: Monitoring Your Emotional Regulation Day by Day ( book kindle )

I Hate You–Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality ( book kindle audible)

The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD ( book kindle )

The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation ( book kindle )

Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder: Relieve Your Suffering Using the Core Skill of Dialectical Behavior Therapy ( book kindle )

Love Me, Don’t Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships ( book kindle )

For family members:

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder ( book kindle audible)

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change ( book kindle )

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship ( book kindle )

For teens:
Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills for Helping You Manage Mood Swings, Control Angry Outbursts, and get along with Others ( book kindle )

Contact Jeff Wilfong for a free consultation today to see how therapy can help you. You can either email him () or call him (888-511-4269). You can read about the many services he offers here.

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